I was constantly told by professionals, particularly teachers, about One Parent, One Language (OPOL). I never really agree subconsciously.
At least that is what I realised today… I am a polyglot, someone who speaks five languages. It is ridiculous for anyone who only speaks one or two languages to tell me what works for my kids… There are so many factors to consider.
I would bring my kids back to Japan to immerse them in the culture. Several months in Japan with school, work so much better than OPOL…
Traveling allows them to understand how languages vary and to try different cuisines.
However, I read books to my older son in three languages. He was able to count to 10 in three languages around 18 months old. A lot of exposure to music in three languages, too.
With baby number two and the end of the COVID era, it was not possible to stay home all the time and repeat what I did with my older son. It also depends on each child. My younger one could not sit for more than a minute. He was walking at 10 months old, constantly screaming for food.
I majored in programming, decided to further my education in marketing, and am now Psychology.
Talking to other moms who are confused after a parent-teacher meeting can be heavy… A mom told me his son is not sociable enough.
Me: “In whose context? Is your son happy with who he is?”
The mom: “I also want him to be more sociable.”
Me: “Everyone has their own timing. I like programming because I work with data, and I do not need to communicate much. However, I was told I was sociable. I choose who I want to socialise with. That is important. I have seen your son, he socialises with those he is comfortable with.”
There is a reason why one needs to be selective with feedback.
Jessica Tamaki 